How is this done? (Cont.)
Handle church concerns according to God’s good order — We’re not going to agree 
with every decision made in the church. When we want to influence a decision or direction, it’s important to handle it in a way that strengthens the church. We keep in mind:
- Pray for your leaders — This is what Scriptures say: “Obey your leaders and submit to them, for they are keeping watch over your souls, as those who will have to give an account. Let them do this with joy and not with groaning, for that would be of no advantage to you.” -Hebrews 13:17
- Honor those who serve in office — The Fourth Commandment requires that we respect those placed in authority. We reject their authority only when it is contrary to God’s Word.
- Speak to the appropriate person — If you disagree with an action, or how something was handled, talk to those in charge. This is the spirit of Matthew 18. Don’t gossip with others or “go over their heads.” Give them the opportunity to make it right or at least explain the decision.
- Take time to build consensus — Surprising others at meetings will likely cause defensiveness. Take the time to build consensus considering (and perhaps discovering) who would be impacted. Then share your ideas and concerns with them. Their input will likely shape your ideas in a positive way and lead to better results.
- Praise in public — This is how you would like to be treated. When merited, offer public affirmation for genuine service and contributions.
- Raise concerns in private – If you have a concern to be addressed, do so privately with that person. Sensitive conversations should be in person or at least on the phone. Email and texts are easily misunderstood. Be mindful of copying others on emails that may put someone in a bad light.